Father Daughter Relationships

Guest — Thu, 17 Feb 2011 05:19:06 +0000

Guest author Johnny Frost

All human relations needs some sort of effort from us to maintain them and nourish them. From all the relationships we have, family relations will be without question the toughest and at the same time the more important relationships we have in our lives. The reason that family relationships are often so difficult is the fact one can’t modify your family; you can’t simply resign and start over. We’ll have the same mom and dad, siblings, sons and daughters throughout our lifetime. This is the reason we ought to work to get the best connections with the family members.

From all the relationships in a family the one that is seen most neglected is the father daughter relationship; This is the main reason, we as dads have to give the most of our attention to our father daughter relationships.

The connection we have with our daughter will shape the way forward for our daughter’s life a lot (in many cases over the relation with her mother) that we can’t simply put aside this relationship.

Each and every father needs to work hard enough to get a relaxed and supportive relationship together with his daughter.

Studies demonstrate that women with an effective and healthy father daughter relationship tend to perform more effective in many aspects of life. Daughters who grew having a communicative, strong and supportive relation with their dads usually shine with regards to:

Self-confidence: these daughters are definitely more positive and self reliant. Preventing in this way many problems in life (from eating disorders to early pregnancy or abusive connections)
Academic: They have a tendency to do greater at college and after that they frequently have better jobs and incomes.
Setting long term objectives and achieving them: The women that grew up with a healthy Father Daughter relationship have a strong base so usually they shoot higher and achieve their targets

As a father I don’t really worry about the reason people overlook these facts. I just want to have the most effective father daughter relationship I can with my girls. That’s why I designed Father Daughter Relationships. I’m only a regular father that is blessed with a couple of daughters and I will make my best effort to develop the most excellent Father Daughter Relationships I can.

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How Strict Should You Be with Your Goals?

Gary N. Larson — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 07:23:30 +0000

Good morning! I want to talk about how strict or rigid should you be in keeping goals. For example, in my case I set a goal to go to bed each night at 10:30 p.m. How rigid should I be with that and should there be exceptions?

My answer to that is that there has to be exceptions at times but they should be few and far between.

For me last night was one of those exceptions. The only time there should be an exception is if there is a higher priority at play here that supersedes the lower one. For example, a higher priority would be my family and my relationships with my children. In this case it was attending a performance that my son was in.

Let me just explain what it was about. My soon-to-be 17-year-old son is a member of the local high school marching band. He plays the sousaphone. (Yes, that’s him in the center of the photo.) I thought it was called a tuba but apparently a tuba is played sitting down such as in a concert. A sousaphone is simply a version of the tuba used by marching bands. Anyway, my son and his band have worked extremely hard on their performance. For those of you who have never been involved with marching bands, they actually have competitions where many marching bands get together and compete. Each band puts on a performance that includes a number of elements. They have judges who judge the competition and they give awards at the end. This is a huge event that begins in the early afternoon and goes on until after 10:00 at night.Of course we wanted to be there to support our son and watch how his band did. My son’s band was scheduled to perform at 9:15 p.m. After they performed there was one more band to perform and then the tallying of all the judge’s scores and then the awards ceremony which lasted quite a while. (Incidentally, our son’s high school band took first place!) Anyway, following the awards ceremony we stayed to help clean up the stadium. So we didn’t get home until around 11:00 p.m.

Now here my goal was to be in bed by 10:30 p.m. What do you do in that situation? Well, you have to have priorities. I can’t, for the sake of my goal to get to bed by 10:30 p.m., ignore my son and not support him. There has to be reasonable exceptions. Those exceptions should only be for events and things that are of a higher priority than the goal of getting to bed on time.

I think there were two lessons learned from last night. The first was one is what I just talked about: Only allow higher priorities to cause exceptions to the rule.

The second lesson on self-mastery that I learned from the band competition last night can be divided into two parts. The first one is to simply watch the performances of these high school kids and see the self-mastery that they have achieved in the performance they put on. It was amazing the way that they learned to work together, to stand at attention, to march in unison, to flow as an entire unit together as a small part of a large whole. To me it was an amazing display of self-mastery to watch these marching bands.

The second part was even more amazing. A storm had been blowing in most of the day. We watched the dark clouds gather and the wind pick up as this competition went on. By the time my son’s high school band performed it was pouring rain. Not just rain but cold, pouring rain. Remember that it’s October. You would think in most situations that they would cancel a big event such as this because you wouldn’t expect anyone to stand out in that rain and put on these performances. These are huge marching bands all dressed in uniforms, carrying their instruments.

I asked one of the organizers of the event if they were going to cancel it. He said there was only one thing that would stop one of these shows and that was lightning. If it begins to lightning only then will they stop the show. Other than that, regardless of whether it’s raining or snowing or windy, the show goes on.

I was amazed at this fact that they go on no matter what. I was astonished as I watched these kids standing there at attention, not flinching as the rain was pouring on them. It was incredible self-mastery. And then to watch them go through their performance, totally ignoring the rain and playing these magnificent songs and marching their complicated formations – it was wonderful and showed supreme self-mastery.

Master Yourself, Master Your Life

Thank you.

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Father Daughter Relationships

How Strict Should You Be with Your Goals?