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Dos and Don’ts for Making Friends

Apr 15th, 2011
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FriendsGuest author Robin Chung

Life is often a little sweeter when you have people to share your problems and successes with. Therefore people all over the world are making friends on daily basis and maintaining existing relationships, but what is the best way of gaining a strong network of ticking hearts? And how can one prevent from looking desperate? Those answers and more in this article, here are my dos and don’ts.

Do show your best self

This may be a no brainer but judging from experience this step is often ignored. It’s so easy to be at your best, yet so many refuse to do the steps. To make a strong impression make sure your hygiene is top notch, haircut is okay and clothes are stainless. You do not have to look like a Hollywood star or a stepped down governor of a curtain state, but please make an effort. Even a little flinch of hair gel will go a long way in looking approachable. (more…)

How to Improve Your Conversation Skills and Make Friends

Apr 8th, 2011
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ConversataionGuest author Joshua Uebergang

If you are a shy or nervous person by nature, than simple conversations can often be arduous, excruciating affairs, with all of your fears and anxieties plaguing your thoughts and actions. But never fear, there is a simple remedy for you to defeat these fears and anxieties – building for yourself a basic foundation of good conversation skills. Once you improve your conversation skills, you will gain confidence and watch the shyness and nervousness melt away.

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The easiest way to keep from stumbling all over yourself in a conversation is to try to relax, stay calm, and quiet your racing mind. Become confident by breathing deliberately and slowly to establish a rhythm and you’ll soon be able to focus clearly on what you wish to say in conversation.

ASK MEANINGFUL OR CLARIFYING QUESTIONS
This is an important conversation skill. The ability to expand the discussion through insightful and engaged inquiries reveals to your counterpart that, not only are you paying attention and invested in the conversation, you are taking the time and effort to thoroughly think it through, and that you are willing to cover a particular thing from every possible angle. (more…)

Power of Appreciation

Apr 4th, 2011
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AppreciationGuest author Brian A. Manning

A while back a professor from an unknown university began reflecting on the people who had a positive impact on his life. In particular he remembered a schoolteacher who had gone out of her way to instill in him a love of poetry. He hadn’t seen or spoken to her in many years and took a moment to remember the impact that she had on his life. He eventually located her address and sent her a letter of thanks. A short time later, he received this reply:

“I cannot tell you how much your letter meant to me. I am in my eighties, living alone in a small room, cooking my own meals, lonely, and, like the last leaf of autumn, lingering behind. You will be interested to know that I taught school for 50 years and yours is the first note of appreciation I ever received. It came on a cold morning, and it cheered me as nothing has in many years.”

The words that were written back to the professor brightened his day and had clearly warmed the life of the teacher that had once had such an impact on his life. (more…)

Did You Say What I Heard?

Mar 25th, 2011
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ConversationGuest author Rebecca Nagy

I was sitting across from some clients – the topic – “he doesn’t seem to listen to what I am saying”. As I watched the dynamic, I noticed that one of the group kept looking around the room, at his feet, picking imaginary lint off his pants – looking everywhere but at his co-worker. He wasn’t “hearing” what she was saying, he was searching for responses. In my over 20 years of counseling and coaching couples, individuals and groups, the first topic I always address is communication.

Whether you are communicating with a spouse, client or co-worker, the hearing mechanism is key to understanding what is actually being said.

There is a difference between listening and hearing. We “listen” to music – but when we are engaged in conversation we need to “hear” what the other person is saying.

The first key to really hearing someone is to connect to them by looking them straight in the eyes. This way you can get in tune with their body language, flashes of emotion and facial expression. You can also focus better on what is being said, versus what you think they are saying. We listen and hear through filters that are driven by past experiences and the emotional charge related to those experiences. (more…)

Negotiating Secrets To Getting The Other Side To See Things Your Way

Mar 20th, 2011
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NegotiationGuest author Dr. Jim Anderson

Have you ever changed something about your appearance that made you look dramatically different? How did that go over with your family, friends, and coworkers? I’m willing to bet that right off the bat there was some shock when they first encountered your new look. However, over time that faded and things got back to normal. What happened is that they eventually came around to seeing you the way that you see yourself. When you are negotiating a deal, this same concept can be a powerful factor in helping you to wrap up a negotiation…

The Concept Of Acceptance Time

New ideas take time to be accepted. This is true in real life as well as in negotiations. If you are the one bringing a new idea to a negotiation, such as a price increase, or a shorter time in which you need to receive a product, then you need to expect the other side of the table to push back on the idea when you present it.

Acceptance time is the time that it takes for one party in a negotiation to accept a new idea. This acceptance does not come quickly. Instead, people need time in order to become used to a new set of circumstances. (more…)

How to Build a Strong Personality

Mar 14th, 2011
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PersonalityGuest author Niki Alex

Is it difficult for you to stand out in a crowd? Are people paying attention to you when you’re expressing your opinion at work or with your friends? You probably have been wondered why some people get more attention than others. It might be because of social status. It could be because of looks. It may be just a matter of how much money you have.

I honestly believe that none of this matters as much as having a strong personality. Don’t get me wrong, people do get a lot of attention if they look totally beautiful, have tons of money and come from a powerful family. But there are many examples of people who have had all of these assets and lived a miserable life. So, what is the factor that can transform a miserable person into a happy balanced one?

The answer is personality.

Personality is the foundation of success and happiness. It is the element some people have which can make them stand out in a crowd no matter if they have a dollar in their pocket or not. I’m sure you are asking yourself if it is possible for you to obtain this element and turn your life around. (more…)

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