Good morning! I want to talk about how strict or rigid should you be in keeping goals. For example, in my case I set a goal to go to bed each night at 10:30 p.m. How rigid should I be with that and should there be exceptions?
My answer to that is that there has to be exceptions at times but they should be few and far between.
For me last night was one of those exceptions. The only time there should be an exception is if there is a higher priority at play here that supersedes the lower one. For example, a higher priority would be my family and my relationships with my children. In this case it was attending a performance that my son was in.
Let me just explain what it was about. My soon-to-be 17-year-old son is a member of the local high school marching band. He plays the sousaphone. (Yes, that’s him in the center of the photo.) I thought it was called a tuba but apparently a tuba is played sitting down such as in a concert. A sousaphone is simply a version of the tuba used by marching bands. Anyway, my son and his band have worked extremely hard on their performance. For those of you who have never been involved with marching bands, they actually have competitions where many marching bands get together and compete. Each band puts on a performance that includes a number of elements. They have judges who judge the competition and they give awards at the end. This is a huge event that begins in the early afternoon and goes on until after 10:00 at night.Of course we wanted to be there to support our son and watch how his band did. My son’s band was scheduled to perform at 9:15 p.m. After they performed there was one more band to perform and then the tallying of all the judge’s scores and then the awards ceremony which lasted quite a while. (Incidentally, our son’s high school band took first place!) Anyway, following the awards ceremony we stayed to help clean up the stadium. So we didn’t get home until around 11:00 p.m.
Now here my goal was to be in bed by 10:30 p.m. What do you do in that situation? Well, you have to have priorities. I can’t, for the sake of my goal to get to bed by 10:30 p.m., ignore my son and not support him. There has to be reasonable exceptions. Those exceptions should only be for events and things that are of a higher priority than the goal of getting to bed on time.
I think there were two lessons learned from last night. The first was one is what I just talked about: Only allow higher priorities to cause exceptions to the rule.
The second lesson on self-mastery that I learned from the band competition last night can be divided into two parts. The first one is to simply watch the performances of these high school kids and see the self-mastery that they have achieved in the performance they put on. It was amazing the way that they learned to work together, to stand at attention, to march in unison, to flow as an entire unit together as a small part of a large whole. To me it was an amazing display of self-mastery to watch these marching bands.
The second part was even more amazing. A storm had been blowing in most of the day. We watched the dark clouds gather and the wind pick up as this competition went on. By the time my son’s high school band performed it was pouring rain. Not just rain but cold, pouring rain. Remember that it’s October. You would think in most situations that they would cancel a big event such as this because you wouldn’t expect anyone to stand out in that rain and put on these performances. These are huge marching bands all dressed in uniforms, carrying their instruments.
I asked one of the organizers of the event if they were going to cancel it. He said there was only one thing that would stop one of these shows and that was lightning. If it begins to lightning only then will they stop the show. Other than that, regardless of whether it’s raining or snowing or windy, the show goes on.
I was amazed at this fact that they go on no matter what. I was astonished as I watched these kids standing there at attention, not flinching as the rain was pouring on them. It was incredible self-mastery. And then to watch them go through their performance, totally ignoring the rain and playing these magnificent songs and marching their complicated formations – it was wonderful and showed supreme self-mastery.
Master Yourself, Master Your Life
Thank you.
Copyright © 2008 Garold N. Larson